8 women who have tried anal sex describe what it really looks like
"Happiness radiates through your whole body."
For some women, anal sex is the cherry on top of the sexual sundae: an extra treat that can enhance what is already delicious (talk about sex here). But for others, it's more like pie: intriguing enough to be worth a try, but definitely not up their alley (because the penis may not enter the alley again).
If you haven't added anal to the menu (but are curious about the taste test), there are a few things you should know first:
Cleanliness is key. Be sure to clean up after the action to avoid the spread of fecal bacteria, and never let your partner go straight from the anus to vaginal sex (as this can lead to infections like bacterial vaginosis).
Try anal training. If you are worried about tearing, you can use anal plugs or fingers to perform a full rectal discharge.
Lubricant, lubricant, lubricant. Remember that lubricant (and lots of it) is your best friend to make things more comfortable.
Prepare the pipeline. Enema is always an option, but you better poop before you act.
Be sure to talk to your partner about how you feel before, during, and after anal sex. If something feels wrong, please stop !
'It can be amazing... as long as you go to the bathroom first.'
"When you support or eat, it's a pity, you definitely feel like you're going to have a bowel movement, whether it's you or him.
"But when you're not and you're comfortable and you're slow, it's very enjoyable. It's different from regular sex because it feels like it's going deeper, but the anus isn't going to help me get an orgasm any easier." - Madeline R.
'The key is to stay relaxed.'
"I'm always scared of it getting hurt, but anal sex is actually not that painful because it's uncomfortable, but for some people the discomfort is so extreme that they can barely do it - like me. Like his girlfriend tried something compared to her fiancé and barely got it no matter how much lube they used. Obviously the key to relaxing is you really don't, actually knowing it's going to happen makes you nervous about it more than usual - unless you happen to like it.
I... don't like it, but my boyfriend likes it a lot, he is very respectful and sweet and will not put pressure on me. We can do it every few months. He is the main proponent of using the docking plug to "relax everything in advance." "-Anna B.
'I just didn't do that.'
"It's not the worst, but it's a bit like flossing isn't the worst. I don't enjoy it. It's not a painful thing, just a slight discomfort, not my kind of thing.-Jo R.
'not feeling well.'
"I tried it a long time ago. The person I was seeing wanted to do it and I was patient but finally gave in. He tried to put it in but it hurt too much, I don't think he did it. I used lube and it's very tight. If I have a lot of trust in him I might do it again with the right person anyway, it's not the most important thing on my list. "- Clara A.
"Happiness radiates through your whole body."
'This is very erotic.'
"Interestingly, my first sexual intercourse was through anal penetration, and my high school sweetheart was held up by Catholics, 'saving for marriage.'" Although I have no interest in this waiting period, he explains that anal sex does not count because it does not cause procreation.
"He hit very well, so take it slow and use a lot of lube as the obvious choice. The strangest thing I noticed is that the initial penetration creates a tightness in my throat, similar to the sensation you can feel after a panic. But this is an exciting sensation, don't panic, it's a slow and pleasant luxury feeling, it's pulled out gently and gently, it must be extremely erotic. I feel like my whole body is in the sexy zone. I found that I can reach orgasm through anal penetration, and anal sex is something I like today. "- Mollena W.
'This is the perfect balance between danger and sexuality.'
"I used to be obsessed with anal sex. In high school, I had more anal sex than regular anal sex. If I understood correctly - I mean, this man didn't shove your ass like his horse. The thermal anus can teeter on the dangerous line between bliss and pain. It feels bigger than ever, filling you completely. When it enters, you have to hold your breath because you feel you have no room in his body to hold the air with his peers, but once it enters, happiness radiates through your whole body." - Nina T.
"I can have a stronger orgasm and be attacked at the same time."
'It really strengthens the bond with your partner. '"
"The key to a good anus - yes, that's a thing - is having a partner you completely trust to do it right, which means lots of lubrication starting from the little finger, like the shade of fifty. Then you work your way up to little toys or docking plugs, and then the anus can be amazing! It's super intense, your lover has to be very sensitive and careful to be a good listener and super patient - you as the receiver have to have a lot of belief in that."
"After all, the anus is an exit, not an entrance, so it's really going to get violated. This isn't a random follower or a behavior that can be performed at random moments. You all have to want it, and you both have to do well. Be prepared, assholes are not allowed in assholes! I think this is one of the best parts of the whole test. It takes a lot of time, trust, and communication. It just magnifies everything physically because you are so connected to your partner" -Tess N.
'I have stronger orgasms during anus. '
"For me, penetration during anal sex can be a little painful during insertion and within the first few minutes. Lots of lubrication, slow, gentle movements and patience quickly take it to the next stage. Exciting and pleasurable pressure. I find that I can have more intense orgasms, but these are clitoral or vaginal orgasms, not anal orgasms - those are quite elusive. For me, anal can be the extra stimulation, intimacy and emotional intensity, orgasm is more powerful.
"But if the angle is wrong during anal sex and the angle is too big or too high, it will cause tingling and uncomfortable pain. It is very important that I get at the right angle. Also, I even wear a double-ended penetration dildo. The harness or the base of the harness can be attached to the clitoris, and the harness can be very comfortable." - Margaret C.